Better Realize Exactly All That He Expects……
In relationships things get tough especially around the holiday season. For some folks, its tough all year round. I had an enlightening conversation with a good friend the other day who told me an alarming statistic. They said, “50% of marriages end in divorce. That still doesn’t mean the other 50% are happy”. That really stung me. I sat and meditated on those words while I thought of all the troubled relationships I have seen and been in throughout my life. Then, it hit me. People are missing something very major and so have I in my relationships. B.R.E.A.T.H.E. Better Realize ALL That He Expects. When you are in a relationship and that person does not meet your expectations the relationship begins to falter. You keep pushing and becoming more angry that they are not who you want them to be. Problem is you knew that from the beginning and you just thought you could change them. NO. BAD IDEA. Realize from the beginning what you both expect from each other. Expectation are requirements in disguise. I repeat EXPECTATIONS ARE REQUIREMENTS IN DISGUISE. People please! Stop acting like that is not the truth and just being in a relationship. Live in and love your relationship. For clarity and peace of mind, examine what you have, set goals for what you want and work towards it. Ladies, you can’t be anyone but YOU. Be honest so that he knows what to expect. Establish your expectations as well. Stop bending and stand firm. Its alright to compromise in some instances but don’t bend so much that you stop being able to recognize who you are and you don’t like who you’ve become.
I want to see all love flourish but especially black love on the rise! Healthy relationships. People loving each other and respecting each other! This all starts with realizing exactly all that they expect from you. If that is not clear then things will become more and more cloudy and unclear. If everything they expect is not clear, then its time to draw the lines again, start fresh and try to save what you have before its too late. So, are you willing to do it? Are you willing to hear them out and do what they expect and are they willing to do that for you? If the answer is YES, start with a Prayer. Ask God what does HE expect from you! If you meet HIS expectations FIRST, everything else will work out. Second, set expectations and guidelines for what you expect from YOURSELF. If your not satisfied and happy with you, then you won’t be happy with anyone else.
It starts TODAY. Start fresh, start new!
Remember, life is not perfect, it is purposed for……….. GREATNESS.
With Love From,
Nina
from → Spirit
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